There
is a kind of marriage called “open marriage.” It refers to a marriage in which
the partners agree that each may engage in extramarital sexual relationships,
without this being regarded as infidelity. In an open marriage, the partners
have no promise to keep the loyalty of sex. So, in this way, they will not
break the promise because there is no one. And certainly, we cannot regard this kind
of adultery as immoral.
What’s
more, even though there is a promise for the loyalty of sex in some marriage,
when adultery happens, we still cannot directly call it immoral. For example,
one partner is paralyzed or seriously ill and he or she is worried about
his/her partner may leave him/her, so the loyalty of sex is strongly requested.
When time flies, one partner has spared no efforts to take care of the other
for years, he/she finally commits adultery because his/her spouse cannot
satisfy the sexual needs. In this case, should we call it immoral? We are human
beings and have basic physical needs. If we have been responsible for being a
good wife/husband to take care our spouse, we deserve the right to have a
better life and pursue happiness.
In
general speaking, hostility toward adultery is seen as a useful way to protect
marriage. If it is really useful, then why is adultery widespread and does
divorce rate get higher and higher? So, it is still question that whether
discrimination toward adultery can protect marriages. However, I have discussed
in Annotation 1 that adultery can be an alternative way to save one’s marriage
and also oneself from possible problems happening in the future. In conclusion,
adultery deserves a different comment other than “immoral.” And even, we cannot
ignore its positive effects. “Not every adultery is the same,” and that means
not every adultery is immoral!
Reference:
Ying-Bin Ning (May, 2002). 通姦不道德嗎? 自由時報
Retrieved from: http://intermargins.net/repression/deviant/Marriage/adultery/articles/2002Jan-Jun/20020513a.htm
1.The first sentence "think of it as wrong or immoral". It should be "think of it as wrong or immorality"
回覆刪除2.The second paragraph "we cannot regard this kind of adultery as immoral". It should be "we cannot regard this kind of adultery as immorality"
First, you didn't have terrible grammar like me. It's great XDD
Second, although I didn't agree with your idea, this article is good and has a strong standpoint. Our basic physical needs is indeed important, and restrained by the moralities.
I think "immoral" is acceptable because "being" can be ignored.
回覆刪除And think for your compliment anyway. :)
I agree that the open marriage is not immoral, but it's because couples themselves had reach agreements before they commit adultery. However, many cheated people do not reach an agreement with their spouses. They just want to pursue excitement. Would you still think that the adultery committed by that kind of people should not be called immoral? Just as you say, they are exceptions, so it's better for you tell readers that it's under specific situation.
回覆刪除And in your last paragraph, what do you mean for "hostility toward adultery is seen as a useful way to protect marriage." I think it's a little strange to say that "hostility" can protect marriage, because it's a kind of feeling. Maybe you can say "the crime of adultery can protect marriage" would be better.
So, that still means not every adultery is immoral!
回覆刪除Thank for your comments anyway :)