Should extramarital affairs be accepted?

   Most people cannot recognize extramarital affairs because no one wants to share his or her spouse with someone else. Since they signify being unfaithful to one’s partner, they are usually considered to be immoral or even culpable. But as far as I am concerned, extramarital affairs are provided with something positive and meaningful. So, my point is people should not completely exclude infidelity; instead, we should accept the truth that it is really needed in our society.  

  Let us face it: there is no perfect marriage. Originally, “in love” feelings do not last forever. And when they disappear, we should realize that loving feeling takes a lot of work, so we must start working at a relationship right away.However, when someone ask "why can't you just get a divorce?" There are a couple of reasons for not doing so. First, the kids. Being hurt by the closest people in the world, they will move on someday but be affected by it forever. Second, livelihood. It is not easy for a woman, who quits her job after getting married to make her career. What’s more, there is still discrimination towards single parent and the children. It causes them to lose self-confidence and thus influences their future development.   

   The reasons above make extramarital affairs being needed. For those who have too much concern to get divorced, infidelity is a good means to save the situation. It can be a warning for your spouse to face the problems in the marriage. For example, by doing this, you can show what the family will be like when you are not part of it, which implies your importance. And if you have already known your partner cheating on you, by doing this, you are taking revenge on him or her. Furthermore, there are several advantages of extramarital affairs. People who engage in infidelity, start learning how to dress up and tend to be more appealing and charming. This helps them retrieve self-confidence and self-worth which they lose from unhappy marriage. And also, according to a novel(失樂園) written by a Japanese writer, people who have extramarital affairs promote finances of the society. They fall in love again and thus start learning how to enjoy their lives.

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