Hello, everyone~ I’m Claire, and our topic is should extramarital affairs be accepted? And I am the one who stand on supporting side.
Ok~~~ To brainwash all of you to stand on my side, I will show you three parts. And between them, there will be a “Candy Time.” During every “Candy Time,” there is a question for you…all of you, and anyone who answers the question will get candy. Ok! It sounds amazing, right? Amazing! Amazing! Yes, let’s get started!!
First, stop stigmatizing adultery. And that means don’t give adultery discrimination! So, what is adultery discrimination? Ok! First Candy Time!!!!!!! Umm… Please give me an adjective to describe adultery!!! Anyone? Ok! Ok! For Taiwanese, they usually pick “immoral”. And that is discrimination, umm…But there is a strong case to tell you that not every adultery is immoral. Assume your husband or wife had a car accident and has been paralyzed. He is too afraid to lose you so he keeps watch over you like always asking you where you are going, and whom you are going to meet umm…and of course, demands your loyalty of sex. But when time flies, in these years you spare no efforts to take care of him, but he cannot satisfy your sexual needs and even is so oppressive and controlling and you feel uncomfortable. So, you finally commit adultery. Should we call it this case immoral? You are the wife and I think you have done all you should do being a wife. And adultery just a way you use to pursue your freedom and happiness.
And next, decriminalizing adultery. Laws against adultery impose discrimination and violence on women should be abolished. For example, in Philippines. OK! Another Candy Time! Let’s find out where Philippines is!!! There are option A B C So, oh! Raise your hand! No~ OK! Tony! Yes! It’s B! Umm…ok! In Philippines, adultery is defined as “Adultery is committed by any married woman who shall have sexual intercourse with a man not her husband.” You see that?! The subject only refers to females. It is obvious that this law shows inequality in gender. And the word “adultery” should not refer to specific sex. Everyone is likely to engage in adultery.
What’s more, in Pakistan. In Pakistan, “laws require a woman making an accusation of rape to provide extremely strong evidence to avoid being charged with adultery herself.” This really does violence to women since “a conviction for rape is only possible with evidence from no fewer than four witnesses.”
And last country, in Jordan. Ok! No Candy Time! There are honor killings. And honor killing is“he who discovers his wife or one of his female relatives committing adultery and kills, wounds, or injures one of them, is exempted from any penalty.” That means men can kill or injure women only for maintaining their dignity and reputations. It ‘s really unreasonable. Because life should be the basic human rights, but it seems that in Jordan, honor is the priority.
Ok! Last part, I want to say there is no perfect marriage. And when people find that there is…there are problems appear in their marriage, they tend to resort to ways like marriage consulting or more talking or praying to God like oh! God please let my husband or wife come back to me. Umm… But if these ways really work, why divorce rate gets higher and higher? So, it’s obvious these ways don’t’ umm…do not work. Umm…So, instead of getting divorced, making an agreement with your spouse like umm… on the basis of bringing up the children together and maintaining family's atmosphere, each other can commit adultery can develop your own relationship with other man or women…umm… woman. And in this way, these are the advantages you will get.
First, your kids. If you don’t get divorced, then you can accompany them. You can avoid them going astray in their teenage years. And in their growing process, you will get happiness or something you never expect. Umm…second, financial problems. It is very hard for a single parent to support a family. Especially, a woman after she got married, she quits her job for her husband and her kids, and it’s hard for her to go back to workplace again. But if choose adultery, and umm… then there is nothing to change. You can…you can just keep working and keep your life as usual. Last, hostility and hatred in the society. Hostility and hatred toward single parent and their children still exist. For adults, they may be labelled as being abusive or having some bad habits that fail their marriages. And for children, it is very likely that they may be mocked by peers or umm… or bullying! Umm… or bullying only having one parent. Like you will be mocked like oh you only have dad. But if you choose adultery, you don’t have to worry about it.