You can stand against extramarital affair and choose not to engage in it, but have to believe that it is necessary and has positive effects in our society, where marriages are still the mainstream of social life.
When people are strongly opposed to infidelity, they cannot uncover the truth that most marriages are not perfect and what's worse, some of them are far from happiness. Because a variety of discrimination brims in our society, such as hostility and labeling on single-parent families and unmarried mothers, social pressure and kids' well-beings make couples surrender to marriages. And thus unhappy marriages come out. Some may think that if you have an unhappy marriage, you can get a divorce, resort to a consultation, or communicate with your spouse to save the situation. But is it that easy to deal with? If it is, then divorce rate should not be so high. We see that in Taiwan, divorce rate gets higher and higher; however, there are still hostility and hatred toward divorced couples and their children, which I have mentioned before. So it turns out that keeping the marriage or getting a divorce are not right. For those people who are in this dilemma, it is impossible to find solutions in a normal or moral way. Although extramarital affair is risky and must be criticized, it is still a possible way to pull you out of the abyss of misery.
To be frank, adultery is just a sexual and emotional relationship outside of a marriage. It is not so horrible, evil or to be considered an unforgivable sin. If a couple really want to deal with the problems in their marriage, they have to reach a consensus. Like an agreement that on the basis of both bringing up the children and maintaining family's atmosphere, each other can develop their own relationship . It is inevitable that adultery will never be accepted by all people. But those people who fight against it, should know that it is more important to solve social problems than to arouse tremendous controversy about whether infidelity is accepted. No matter how adultery's rightfulness develops, it exists anyway and is still taken as a possible means by those people who need it.