I’m Claire and our topic is “should extramarital affairs be accepted?” And I stand on supporting side and Emily is the opposite. I go first now. In my annotation 1, I talked about adultery is an unconventional way to save yourself from three main problems if you choose not to get divorced when you find your spouse cheating on you. First, the kids, and second, financial problems, and the third, discrimination in the society.
And, in annotation 2, I go further to talk about adultery can retrieve yourself mentally and face emptiness in your bottom of heart, which is caused by your unhappy growing process. And now, I am going to show you guys a story that the author provided to strengthen the point. Ian. Ian is the only but unexpected child in his family. And he desires to be loved, cared, and depended on because he never really knows his father who is an airman and always away from home. And Ian is even not close his mother who is a model and always busy at party hosting. So though, Ian got married finally, but he did not tell his wife about the desires in his mind and finally he committed adultery. But after his wife found Ian cheating on her, they talked and Ian learns to express his needs and his wife has learned to listen to.
So, should adultery be criticized? In view of the vows that in the ceremony, the person who committed adultery should be blamed because he or she did break the promise. But when we look at the traits of emptiness, they are included: first, everyone feels it that means everyone has the feeling of emptiness; second, it comes from not keeping some relationships just like Ian found he could not keep the marriage; last, it comes from not knowing self or losing self because of someone just like Ian, because of his parents were not close to me, which gave Ian thee feeling of emptiness and Ian didn’t know what he really wants. So, the main point. The main point is that the second...umm... the third it comes from not knowing self or losing self because of someone. But we see, through adultery, Ian knew what he really wants finally, and chose to face the problems and talked to his wife and thus they changed their marriage. So, the conclusion: adultery must be considered immoral or shameful but we cannot deny it as an useful measure to retrieve yourself even though at first place, we commit adultery just for fill the feeling of emptiness.